THE TWO CONCEPT OF SUBMISSION THAT EVERY MAN WANTS FROM HIS WIFE
- For Wives, Submit to your husbands.
2. For husbands, love your wives.
- For Wives, What does submission in the context mean?
Paul instructed a wife should submit to the husband as to the Lord.
Paul was referring to the act of Respect, Reverence, Praise, Obedience, Honor, care, etc.
As a wife, you are meant to respect your husband, regard him highly, obey whatever instruction he gives you. If they ask you not to do a particular thing, that’s not the time to challenge their authority, remember he is the head (leader) of the home so don’t do it, that’s obedience.
The bible likened this act to the same act we perform onto God. This means, just the way you see God that is the way you should see your husband, As your head. You know when God instructs a thing you don’t challenge him, why then are you challenging your husband? When we don’t obey God, there are consequences and that’s just the way it is when a wife disobeys her husband.
When your husband is not responding to your desire or pleads that’s when you go to God in prayers to touch his heart.
I know this might sound somehow or hard to practice but a Christian wife who is obedient to God won’t find this hard. This is the ultimate truth about what submission means, and how it should be practiced by wives..
Don’t feel threatened yet, when I explain that of the husband you will know this is just a piece of cake for you to do if you marry a godly man.
Also, one important thing to note is that this submission applies to everything.
“… so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything”.
This is why it’s very important to marry a man that is aligned with God’s word because he will never ask you to disobey God or ask you to do something bad.
- For husbands, what does loving your wives mean in this context?
In the case of husbands, Paul instructed then to love their wives just as Christ loved the church.
How does Christ love the church?
As a husband, headship implies accountability and responsibility. Not tyranny. As a husband, you should be ready to give up your life for your wife, protect her, think about her and the kids before you think about yourself, her needs first, be kind to her, caring, practice selflessness, sacrifice, seek the highest good for her, etc.
If a husband truly thinks about the wife before himself, then he should be able to always listen to her and consider are desires first ensuring that it is only a logical and direct instruction from God that will cause him to refuse her suggestion in any matter and this should be done in peace. This makes submission easy for the wife.
It’s important for husbands to understand that every leader is first a servant. This is true leadership. So because you are called the head or leader, this is not about lording things over your wife, this is about serving her.. Jesus to illustrate this washed the feet of his followers, he served, this is an act of love and humility.
The man was instructed to love the wife as he loves his body.. This is because they are now one as two shall become one by the marriage covenant. Respect your wife just the way you respect yourself. No sensible man can hurt himself, therefore no sensible man should hurt the wife (any form of violence or abuse). No Christian husband will instruct the wife to go against God’s Instructions because she is meant to submit in everything.